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Blogging. Why? How? What I have learned in 10 months.

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When I first started blogging I did it to make money and I did a really bad job. I was totally inconsistent. I got tired of what I was writing about. I started this blog about 5 years ago. It was going to be travel, then food, then kids stories. and then I finally decided I would just write about whatever I wanted to write about.  I had written a couple short books (find them on the buy my book page!) and I wanted to find readers for them. I wanted to find my audience.
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I decided to write everyday. And I challenged myself to write one blog a day, every day that I had to work, for a year. After a month I looked back I noticed I was pretty repetitive in a lot of my stuff. I could see how I would have something on my mind so I would write a couple times about it. For example, Thanksgiving. I don’t know if I needed to have 3 blogs about who was coming, what I was planning for the menu and then a recap of how the day went. Maybe I could have done it all in one blog. And thrown some pictures in.
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In the beginning I didn’t think about pictures. I was mostly just focused on building content. Just keep writing, more and more. I started in November and by December I had a couple followers and a few views. It was a little discouraging. I felt like I was investing a lot of time in this and nothing was really happening. My husband suggested I try twitter to promote. I signed up and attached my blog to my twitter. Then something amazing happened. Someone from the writing community became my friend. They put me on his list of Authors and introduced me. Within a month I had 1000 twitter followers and I also found the blogging community. I was thrilled. I was still writing. I was checking out other peoples blogs I realized I needed to add some pictures. I read that some bloggers get a lot of traffic from pintrest. I signed up for pintrest. Attached my blog to it and started pinning all my pictures from my blogs. I actually do get a couple views from pintrest now a week. I think my problem is that I need to reorganize my boards. So I need to do that next and then figure out how to get more followers and join more boards.
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I signed up for Instagram and Linked In and Facebook. I joined a bunch of writing groups and added my blog to publish on my page. I also promoted it on some of the blogging groups and then I got reported as spam. I guess there are a lot of rules in these groups and I broke one. Someone reported my blog as spam and now I can’t post my blog on Facebook anymore, anywhere. Not even on my own page. It’s been 6 months. I know I have lost traffic from this and the problem with Facebook is that there is no one to talk to about it. I have looked all over and I reported the problem and I have received no answer at all. I actually think I am going to delete Facebook this weekend. It’s just frustrating at this point because there are no answers. I have had emails open for review since February. They’re still all open. I don’t think anyone reviews anything. They just mark your website as spam and that’s it. So at this point, Facebook doesn’t help me at all.
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Linked In hasn’t done much for me but I just post my blogs to there as well under my Author account. I think it can’t hurt. Instagram will be my next thing to look at. I see a lot of people promoting a follow me and I’ll follow you back thing on twitter. I might try it. I don’t know yet. Across all platforms there seems to be a lot of follow me and I’ll follow you back and then they stop following you so it looks like they have a lot of followers… It’s really dumb. If you follow me, I will follow you back. If you unfollow me, I will unfollow you too. With Pintrest and Instagram I really can’t see who does this so I have stopped following anyone at the moment because I’m following all these people and my number of followers is staying the same. … This brings me to my next point…
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A few things I have learned….
I stopped looking at the numbers so much. I used to track views, followers, friends, everything across all platforms. I stopped that. I was getting upset when I stalled, or lost followers. I would think there was something wrong with me or my content. So I stopped. I still check the monthly views but I don’t get down on myself for not hitting the same or better as the month before. Some months are just slower.
I stopped trying to make myself write something new everyday. I do write everyday still but sometimes it’s just nothing. I keep writing. Sometimes I start writing and it triggers something and off I go to write a blog about it. Other times I write nothing all day and just check twitter a couple times and drop my link to a previous blog a couple times and I read a couple new blogs.  It still brings traffic and I am not killing myself to come up with something. It also feels less like a job to me now. I am enjoying it again.
I try to check out everyone who supports me and likes or comments. I try to return the favor. This also helps me see what other blogs are like and what interesting things they are writing about.
I have stopped comparing myself to other blogs in terms of numbers. I see people promoting how they get 100,000 views a month from Pintrest and they make a couple hundred dollars. It made me feel discouraged. I would like to get that too but I also have children and a full time job and I know will get there in time, maybe. But maybe I won’t and I am okay with that too.
Find your people and join some support groups. Support other people and learn as you go.
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I am currently using WordPress and I upgraded to the premium plan thinking I could monetize it and make some kind of money. The thing with keeping them as a host for my blog is I have to upgrade to the Business plan in order to use plug ins. You need a plug in to add google adsense or other ways to have your blog make money. I am currently trying to decided if I should try that for a year or just go to a different host. I have heard that there are a lot and they are cheaper and you can add all the plug ins to help with getting people to find you and also getting a better ad service that will actually pay you. I have the WordPress ads and I have made a grand total of $2.50 since November. It’s pretty lame and totally discouraging.
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I like Blogging though. I like meeting new people and reading what other people write about so I’m going to keep at it to see what happens.
I did get one free sample of a CBD product to try. That was pretty cool. I had to try it for a few weeks and then write something about it and then promote it for a week or longer. That I actually kind of liked and it made me realize I could write and then promote that blog for a couple days while I write something else.
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For me, the main thing that I have learned so far is to relax a little. It’s not always about numbers. This isn’t my job, this is my hobby and I should enjoy it. If I end up making some money off it, that’s great! If I don’t, at least I enjoyed myself.
What is the most important thing you have learned so far?

End of Summer and I’m back!

Hey everyone! I hope everyone is good! Vacation was good. We went to Williamsburg, VA with family friends. We had a lot of fun but it was HOT.
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I didn’t even know I could sweat so much or out of so many places. My shoulders were sweating, my legs were sweating.  I have never felt so hot in my life. We had a blast though. We spent the morning or the afternoon at the resort in the pool mostly and then we went to the water park or Busch gardens or into Colonial Williamsburg to walk around.
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The town was really cute and pretty. People were dressed up in period costumes, they looked hot but they said they get tot take a lot of breaks, so it wasn’t that bad.
Busch Gardens was fun and once we got the layout a little we learned how to work the train and the sky ride so we could visit everything we missed and it also gave us a little break from walking.
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The Water park was fun but I was a little disappointed how the layout was. It was just such a long walk to get anywhere, or that’s what it felt like to me. Like you had to walk back to the middle to get from one part of the park to the other. We rented a cabana and to get to that we had to hike all the way across the park. I will post a review of everywhere later.
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We went to the outlets a couple times and got the kids shoes and some clothes for back to School. I would sign up for the rewards programs while in the store and get extra money off so I feel like we got some really good deals.
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I was actually a little sad when the vacation ended. I missed our dogs though and we ended up cancelling an overnight trip to visit another friend on the way home just so  we could come home Friday instead of Saturday. Also, my husband got swimmers ear so he wanted to just go home too. I am really happy that we did that because I got to do laundry and grocery shop and I didn’t feel like I needed to rush.
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I am a little sad that the summer is basically over.
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Kids start school tomorrow and then we are back in school and things will kind of get back to the regular routine.
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I did have a great summer though. We started in San Diego and ended in Virginia. We have one more weekend get away this year, Cape Cod for my birthday. We’re taking my sister, niece and mom with us this time. I think it’ll be fun. I love Cape Cod in September, I can’t wait.
How was your summer?

Vacation Mode.

Hi Everyone! I am going on a scheduled family vacation.Image result for family vacation free image interracial cartoon

I will be back in soon time with a few reviews and then more of my ramblings. I would love if you could check out some of my older posts in my absence. I will be back after the 27th. We have vacation and then school starts again.Image result for back to school image

I will be mostly logging off of all social media till we return. I really hope everyone has an amazing rest of August and I really look forward to catching up and reading everything everyone has posted once I get back into the swing of things. Love you all.Image result for I love my readers image

Thank you so much for the encouragement and positivity. I can’t wait to come back but I know that my family and I need family time before 5th (he’s already taller than me, gasp!) and 3rd (she’s still a baby, right?) grade.Image result for I love my readers image

Happy end of summer!!

Solar Panels?

My husband likes the idea of solar panels and he spoke to an agent yesterday. We have talked about installing them on our roof before and let the idea go. I thought about putting holes in the roof of a house we just bought and I did not want that.
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My opinion now is that I feel like it’s an investment that might hurt us when we try to move. We bought our house and have a mortgage. We are currently trying to save money so we can move to San Diego, hopefully next year.
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Whenever we move we are planning on keeping our house here for a year and renting it out. We want to rent in San Diego for a year. If we love it and never want to leave, we would sell our house here and buy one there. I think a year will give us time to get jobs, figure out the commutes and then see where we would like to buy if we decide we want to stay.
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My husband sees the savings and the value of the Solar panels. Honestly, I would do it if we weren’t talking about moving. If we were saying that we are here and we will stay in this house for the next 20 years, I would sign up. I know that in the past I have heard that it’s harder to sell a home with solar panels that have a lease or loan because the buyer would have to take over the remainder of the lease or loan.
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We have decided that we are going to reach out to our realtor that sold us our home 5 years ago and see what she thinks about the market around here. If, in her experience, solar panels have helped or hurt or did nothing at all if we choose to sell in a couple years. Then we’ll talk about it some more.
Has anyone had any experience is this? What are your thoughts?

Do you ever leave bad reviews?

I was a little upset this past weekend. I have a nail salon and spa that I have been going to for over 15 years. I go there because I love the atmosphere and the people. They were always so warm and welcoming. I have brought my husband, children, sister, niece, my mother… Pretty much anyone who I am super close with. It was a little run down but every single time you walked in you got smiles and hugs. I know about their families, and they know about mine.
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Earlier this year the owner, Grace, decided that she wanted to retire. So she sold it to a husband and wife. They said that  they were going to update it some and keep all the staff. And they did. The first few times I went there I was surprised by how much a couple new chairs and some paint could make a place look brand new. They also upgraded the nail polishes and I really liked that. They added a few new services but kept the old ones and then kept the prices the same.
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The new owner was a former employee, I didn’t know her much though because I have one girl I go to all the time. She gives the best massages… I don’t normally like other people touching me, I get tense. But something about this woman, Y. , just made me relax. I have basically been going to her for the last 5 years.  Over a few months I noticed a change. It was silence when I walked in. No one seemed happy. A few staff had left and there were a few new people. Then I found out that the new owner told my manicurist as well as the woman that my husband always went to, that they were no longer allowed to do mani/pedis. They were only to do massage. I would still go there and tell her that I wanted Y., and she would let her take me but she would hover around us. It was just too much but I figured that as long as I can still have my person, I would keep coming back.
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This past weekend I text Y. and asked her when I could come for a mani/pedi because we are going away soon. She said that she only works there Friday, Saturday and Sunday now. So I asked her what time Friday and she responded with a “I think you should find somewhere else, I don’t think I can take you here anymore.” Then she asked me if I would write a review to let people know that this nail Spa is not the same anymore. And I told her I would. And I did. I changed my 5 star review to a 1. Now I am really sad. I loved that place and I loved those people and I don’t think I will see them again unless they go somewhere else. I told Y. to let me know if she ever goes anywhere else and I would follow.
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I think this is one of 3 times in my life I actually left a bad review.  I kind of feel bad about even though I am also mad that the new owners have ruined one of my favorite places. Do you leave bad reviews?

August Goals

Ah, August. I can’t believe it’s here already. The last month before school starts again. In July, my goals were to support other bloggers and try to post 3 blogs a week. I did support other bloggers (not as much as I wanted to but as much as I could), I did not post 3 blogs a week.
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The summer is a little tough for me. My job has Summer Fridays, a half day every Friday for the summer. I took the rest of the day off so I am off every Friday. I love it. I get to do my grocery shopping early, I meet my husband for lunch with the kids. And then I take the kids out after to do something fun. Bowling, the aquarium, the beach or park… Something to be out. Then we go home and swim in our new mini pool and I cook dinner. It’s just an extended weekend and I changed my mind about 3 blogs a week. 2 is good for now. I really enjoy that extra day to hang out with my kids and just relax. So, I really haven’t tried that hard to post 3 blogs a week. I think I did once and the other weeks I managed 2. It’s whatever.
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I’m not mad at myself. I am happy that I am not forcing it.
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So I am going to adjust my August goal. Continue to support other bloggers. Aim for 2 blog posts a week. That’s it because this is going to be another slower month. We have a vacation for a week coming up. I will not be posting at all that week. I will be putting my phone down and relaxing with family and friends. We’re going to Williamsburg, VA to explore this time. My other friend is getting married in November so I have a bridal shower, and book club. Plus, I need to take the kids and my niece back to school shopping. It’s going to be a busy month, but a fun month.  I still can’t believe that it’s already August.
What about you? What are your goals? How’s your August look?

Little Me, Big World… Excerpt

Hi Everyone! I am so proud of my new YA fiction book. I really enjoyed writing it and I really hope you enjoy reading it.

Chapter 1: 5th grade me

 

Hi. My name is Jessica. I’m about to be 10 years old.  I am going into 5th Grade at Riverside Elementary School.  My teacher this year is Mrs. D and she is very strict. In fact, she is known as the meanest teacher in the entire school. I heard she once hit a kid with a ruler because they spoke without raising their hand.

 

I can tell this year is going to be tough. One of the biggest reasons is that I don’t have many friends in my grade. I am not like the popular girls. I’m not a Girl Scout, I don’t have pretty clothes, and I don’t do gymnastics.  Every year in elementary school it seems my friend circle shrinks a little more. This year I have about 3 girlfriends left that talk to me, Joey, Rebecca and Azra.

 

Besides my 3 school friends I have a secret crush on a boy named Deacon in my class. He is so cute. I have liked him since the 4th grade but he’s popular and I am not. Still, I hope that maybe he’ll notice me one day, so I try to suck in my tummy every time he walks by. He never notices me, but he is the cutest boy I have ever met.

 

 

Even if he did notice me, I don’t know how to speak in front of him. I just freeze and I don’t say anything. Nothing is better than something stupid, right? I don’t need any more reasons for everyone to laugh at me in school. I’ve made it pretty easy to be laughed at already.

In second grade I peed my pants at recess. In third grade I threw up in a popular kid’s mom’s brand-new minivan on a class trip to the beach. In fourth grade I faked a sprained ankle when I really just broke my toes running away from my oldest brother. I decided to use my other brother’s old crutches. I thought that it wasn’t actually lying, I did break my toes, it just wasn’t I-needed-crutches-serious.

 

The nurse called my mom and I had to go back to school the next day and walk on my heel with my toes taped together… No crutches. I got made fun of for a month. I plan on lying low this year and just trying to make it to middle school.

 

I live in a little town called Riverside. It’s nice, minus the not having very many friends at my school.  It’s the first day of school.  My summer felt long, and I loved every minute of it and now I am stuck back at school all day. The weather is nice at least.

September is my favorite month of the year. I love fall, and it just so happens that my birthday is also in September. I walk very slow to get to my new class. We are the top of the top now. 5th grade. The last grade before you go to middle school and become the smallest all over again. None of my friends are in my class this year so I have to wait till recess to even talk to them. This is going to be terrible.

 

 

I walk in and see that my assigned seat is right in the middle of the entire class. I totally prefer the sides. I hate being in the middle of anything. My class neighbor is this girl Rebecca. Not Rebecca my friend in another class: Rebecca the most popular girl in the entire school. She also hates me for reasons that I have never figured out.

One time I heard her telling Stephanie, a girl who was my friend in 2nd grade, that I smelled funny and dressed like a boy. I do dress like a boy, that’s true. My clothes are mostly hand me downs from my two older brothers. Today I am wearing brown corduroys and a mustard yellow t-shirt. At least my shoes are new.

 

My hair is long, straight and boring brown. I am trying to grow my bangs out, but they are only long enough right now for me to tuck them behind my ear. No matter what they always fall forward.  There’s this boy named Tim that calls me bald eagle because I have a scar on the top of my head, right in the middle of my scalp. A big bald spot from when I had cradle cap as a baby. My mom said I scratched it so much I made it scar so no hair ever grew there. I tell people that I fell down the stairs and my hair got stuck on bubble gum and it ripped it out and then no hair ever grew back…..

 

Keep Reading…

NEW BOOK!!!!

Hi Everyone!!! I know I have been slacking a little on my blog lately but it’s part summer and part I have been working really hard on my new YA fiction book! I really love this book. I hope you love reading it as much as I loved writing it… and reading it… and writing it… Here it is:

It’s about:

Jessica is 10 years old and is starting to learn about growing up and changes in friendships. She has to learn how to make new friends but first she has to get through the 5th grade play without fainting on stage in front of the entire school.

Please give it a read. I am working on the follow up to it now. Hopefully I will be done by October.

 

Thorne Vitamin Review

****Disclaimer**** There are affiliate links in this post. I do make a small commission off each purchase you make from them. I would never promote products that I do not believe in 100%. You can count on my honest opinions on all products listed in any of my pieces. Thank you.

As you all know, I have been going through some health shit lately. Mental and Physical… This past year I’ve had more blood taken then when I was pregnant both times. I had ultrasounds on my neck, on my uterus… I have PCOS, Hashimotos (but my thyroid is still okay for now, they say) also my vitamin D levels were deficient. Currently I am waiting on a cholesterol check because the bad one was high all of a sudden this past physical. So I don’t know. Anyway, I say all this to say it all started back in October. I woke up and thought I was dying because my stomach was killing me. I went to the doctor and told her that since my father had died I was drinking a lot… Mostly just so I could go to sleep. I thought I broke my liver. She touched my stomach and I almost screamed. Turns out it was acid reflux. She gave me medicine, told me to get some blood work and sent me for a chest x-ray to make sure my lungs were clear. My blood work came back with the Vitamin D deficient and I was told to get a good high dose over the counter and come back in a few months to test again. So I went to Costco because I like to buy in bulk. Related image

I bought the Costco brand Vitamin D and I tried to take them, I really did. I even started to eat breakfast to try to help me not feel so nauseous but a couple mornings no matter what I did, I would throw the vitamins right back up. One morning I was walking out to my car to drive the my kids to school and I puked right outside my car. My kids were like “Oh my god! Are you okay!?” I explained to them that it was the vitamins and I wasn’t really sick… Then I tried to take the vitamins before I went to bed but I don’t like feeling gross if I don’t go to bed fast enough so I started to just forget. Image result for vitamins that make you feel nauseous free image

Around this time I was also feeling really crappy mentally as well. My father died in a farm accident last July and it was my first holidays without him. I just felt crappy physically and mentally.  I got on a list for a psychiatrist in January. Meanwhile, my primary care doctor was trying to figure out why my cholesterol was going up with the results from the next blood work. She told me it might be because of the holidays and food and to continue taking the vitamin D and come back in 3 months.

In April I was able to get in to the Psychiatrist. He gave me Wellbutrin to help me get my ass up in the morning and not feel so miserable all day. He gave me a high dose vitamin D and told me to start with that and come back next month. Image result for high cholesterol low vitamin d free image

I went back to my doctor and she said guess what? You need a high dose vitamin D and your cholesterol is even HIGHER. I was like I am eating Oatmeal. I am taking 5000 vitamin D a day and I want to give it 3 months before going on any more medicine. She said okay.

The vitamin D I have been taking is amazing. I am not nauseous. I have been taking it for 3 months and I feel amazing. So amazing that I signed up to be an ambassador for the company. It’s really incredible how much of a difference I feel just waking up in the morning.

This is the Vitamin D I am taking till I run out and if you are deficient and having a hard time finding a vitamin that doesn’t make you feel like vomiting 15 minutes later, give this a try. Vitamin D-5,000 . I think it’s amazing. You do have to take it with food so it absorbs better, but I didn’t feel like puking at all, ever.

I do take a probiotic everyday and my psychiatrist recommended I add fish oil. Which is something I have heard before. So I also started taking this a month after the vitamin D with dinner. Omega Plus™ . I swear I feel even better. I think my skin looks better too, honestly.

 

The last thing that we added was a basic daily vitamin that I will continue with that after I get my vitamin D to where it needs to be. This I have been taking for the last month and I really can’t tell you how amazing I have been feeling lately. Basic Nutrients 2/Day

 

I highly, highly recommend these vitamins. I am currently waiting on my next blood work results from my tests this morning. I have also added walking more and I will be adding in some cardio and weight lifting in the next few weeks.

This is my link and if you are looking for some amazing vitamins, I would really recommend at least trying these. I have bought all the ones I have tried, nothing was given to me for free. I just liked them so much I signed up to help promote them and maybe get a little discount along the way.

Thorne – Jessica Acosta

 

 

 

Family Lion King Movie Review

I was really excited for this movie. I had watched Lion king on repeat as a babysitter and I was really hoping for a new take on it. There may be a few spoilers in this review but only if you have never seen the original Lion King before.
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My son (10) :
I liked it.
My daughter (7) :
She fell asleep half way through. To be fair, she was at her first sleepover the night before and pretty exhausted already. She said “Good”.
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My niece (14):
It was good. Unrelated to the movie. The girl next to me talked too much and was annoying. Also my mom on the other side of me kept saying the lines before they did and singing. Ugh. H. As in Hhhhhhhhhhhhhh. (she didn’t actually say the H thing now, but she has said it before to me and I just thought it belonged here.) Lion King 2019: what's better and worse about the Disney remake - Vox
Me (37):
I liked it. I thought it was good. I really expected something a little different and it felt totally the same. I knew everything and practically every line before it was said. I really was hoping for a little bit of new life. Look at that cast! Let them LIVE a little.
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My sister (34) :  I loved it. I actually liked that it was practically the same. I am happy they barely changed anything. The new songs weren’t my favorite and Zazu was not what I expected at all. The new versions of the same song felt not as magical as the original. Like they were toned down a little. I didn’t like this Zazu and he doesn’t sing about his lovely bunch of coconuts. I wish they actually kept that.
I actually agree about the coconut part.
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Overall, would I see it in a theater? Ehh, maybe once on the discount day. Would I watch it again on Netflix? Yes. Would I buy it? Probably not.
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My husband actually refused to see this movie with us. He said he didn’t think a new lion king was necessary. Honestly, it didn’t feel new at all.
I loved Timon and Pumbaa in this movie and if they did a live action Lion King 1 1/2… I would totally watch it.