Hi! I have been on a sort of health kick but then last weekend I fell off the wagon, rolled  into a ditch and I have been trying to dig myself out of it. It’s not working that well. I had wine and a burger yesterday and I have zero extra points remaining for the week (until Friday). I haven’t lost any weight in over a month…

But I haven’t gained anything back either so I guess that’s a win. Anyway, I’ll get back to it. I just need to refocus on my goal. Which is 20 more pounds by September. I am going to be 40 and I don’t want to enter my 40’s where I am right now. I have been looking at natural wines lately and I have tried a couple.

I just signed up for a 2 month subscription to USUAL wines. I ordered it to try last month because I liked that it comes portioned already. I tend to open a bottle of wine and then drink all of it. So I liked the portioned controlled idea. I am always hesitant on signing up for any subscription, but I did. I can cancel after two shipments if I want and the first one is coming Thursday. So we’ll see.

I also ordered Wonderful Wines. I got the starter pack and I just finished all 3. The reds are my favorite but I did like the super dry white on New Years Eve at my sisters. I just ordered another 3 bottles last night.

I am thinking about trying Dry Farms Wines too. I just really want to drink a wine with less additives, added sugar and sulfites so that’s what I have been looking for. I might order Dry Farms wines next month to try them out. Has anyone tried these already? What did you think?

I have also bee reading like crazy. I just finished:The girl with the louding voice : a novel / Abi Daré.

I really enjoyed this book. If you get a chance, I would recommend reading it. It’s crazy to think that this is based in 2000’s. I loved the main character. I was rooting for Adduni. It made me angry all the things that happen to her and she’s only 14.

In five years : a novel / Rebecca Serle, Lindsay Sagnette.I liked this book. It was a super fast read and it turns sad but happy. I couldn’t decide if I liked the main character or not. I did like her best friend. I would recommend this book to read with some tea under a heated blanket. 

A good girl’s guide to murder / Holly Jackson.This book was alright. I got wrapped up in it in the beginning and then I felt like it was getting to a point of like “Really, what’s next?” Like almost too much. Kind of like when I read Twilight and I was like this book is terrible but I kept reading to see what could possibly happen next. That’s how I felt about this book. My real only connection was that it’s based in CT and so I know some of the towns it referred to. Someone works for a non profit in Norwalk. I work for a non profit in Norwalk… That was my only connection to this book and I am glad it doesn’t have more books to follow. Read if you liked Twilight.

The Opposite of loneliness : essays and stories / Marina Keegan.I enjoyed this book but I was really sad reading it because I know the author died in an accident at a young age. I also got annoyed because she goes to Yale and has all this opportunity and it got me thinking about what if I went to a good college? Would I have these interesting conversations with people? I never even gave myself that option because I was working. Regardless of my thoughts, Marina was a great writer and while I didn’t enjoy all the stories in the book, I liked them enough. I would recommend reading.

The four agreements : a practical guide to personal freedom / Miguel Ruiz.This book I picked because I think I landed on a books recommended by Megan Markle and I was like what does she read? This is a short book and it annoyed me. Haha. That’s the best way to put it. I got the let things go, focus on you, you can only control you, blah blah. But I didn’t like the don’t worry about other people. I don’t get that so maybe that’s my problem. Try only your best everyday. I felt like this was a basic book of life advice. I don’t read a lot of self helpish books though. I think the last one I read was the Tao of Pooh when I was a teenager…. I recommend the Tao of Pooh. That’s all I can say.

That’s pretty much what I am up to. I only really go to the library and the grocery store… And Fed Ex once a week. I am still doing Rent the runway. I can’t help it, I really like having new things to wear even if it’s just to walk the “runway” know as aisle 5 at the grocery store, it makes me happy and lord knows we all need the little things right now.

Have you read any good books lately? Any recommendations to add?

Hey! Happy almost New Year! I am praying 2021 allows us to start seeing our friends and family again. I can wait till it’s safe for everyone. I just really hope that come summer, we’ll be ok to at least have small BBQ’s.

This new year celebration will be … Nothing much. I bought a bottle of champagne but who knows if we’ll be up at midnight to toast. I am more than fine if we just toast on Friday. I have no plans to make anything special, we’re just going to chill out. We spent Christmas with my sister and niece, who have also been staying home since the beginning of December. We might go to their house and order something for dinner. We’ll see.

For resolutions, I am not making any big or really new ones. I have been on weight watchers since October and lost 12 pounds so far. Since Thanksgiving I have kind of just been maintaining that loss, which I am fine with for now. I am hoping to step it back up January 2nd by adding the elliptical or rowing machine in a couple times a week. I have been waking up before everyone and doing yoga. I really enjoy the stretching and my back has felt a lot better. I have 20 more pounds that I want to lose so I am focused on trying for 1 pound a week. I’m going to be 40 this year so I really just want to get healthy for my 40’s. I’m going to try. We’ll see what happens.

I am hoping to start to plan a couple vacations but it really depends on what’s going on with Covid and travel.

After Christmas I got really sad. I just was so looking forward to Christmas and it was such a great day! The day after I just felt like “What’s next?” Nothing. Haha. I know I am being a little dramatic but it just felt like everything else to look forward to is so up in the air or far away. I’m honestly a little sad still but I am going to focus on getting my health on track. I want to learn how to cook a few new things. I am going to step up my fitness a little. I am going to go ahead and plan those vacations and pray that we’ll be in a place that we can go.

That’s pretty much it for me! How about you? What are your new years plans? Any resolutions?
Happy New Year!

I’m counting down the days.🙂

I am so excited this year. I think it’s just something to look forward too. Also, almost the end of the year and I am really ready for this year to be over. I am ready for a new president. I am ready for a vaccine eventually, once all the important people are taken care of. I am ready to be able to plan a vacation again soon with our friends and family. I am ready for a thanksgiving with everyone and to be able to celebrate birthdays together. I would love to see my mom again for a bit and my in law’s. I want to have book club with boozy brunches and lots of laughing. I’m ready.

My sister’s birthday is on Christmas Eve. Her job went remote again just in time for her to quarantine for 2 weeks so her and my niece can come celebrate! It sucks because they cut her hours but I’m happy because they can come over and hang out. For her birthday I ordered a Carvel Ice Cream cake and we’ll order Lomo Saltado for dinner. Then we can rent a movie to watch. After they leave, I’ll make some cookies with the kids for Santa and hopefully we can call it an early night.

The kids kind of believe in Santa still. They both know that my husband and I do a lot of the gifts, but they think Santa brings a couple. They’re 9 and 11 and they go to public school. They have been on the fence about Santa for years. When they ask I just tell them that he’s real if they believe he’s real. I still believe in the spirit of Santa.

Then Christmas! I feel like I went a little over board this year for everyone. I just wanted something to really look forward to, and I am really looking forward to giving everyone things and hanging out. We had it because we didn’t go on vacation at all (staycation didn’t really count). Also, my husband and I were lucky and our jobs went full remote pretty easily. We are fortunate, I know. I am reminded to thank god every morning when I read the news. My sister and niece will be coming back over after they wake up and do their morning Christmas stuff. We will exchange gifts, relax and I’ll cook. This year it’s prime rib with smashed potatoes, carrots, mac and cheese, biscuit’s and monkey bread. I’ll make brownies and cookies for dessert. Then we’ll probably watch another movie or some of those extreme shows and hopefully go to bed on the early side.

That’s pretty much it for our Christmas this year. What are your plans?

I know I am really late for this review. I always put off getting an Instant pot because I have a lot of the appliances that it is supposed to replace. The Instant Pot  Duo we purchased is an 11 in one 6 quart appliance. I bought one for my mom for Christmas and a couple cookbooks that I found on Amazon.  It went on sale for $50.00 less the week after I bought my mom hers. I decided that I would buy my own and then we can exchange recipes and both learn how to use it together.

I am pretty sure if my mom has no one to talk to about how to use it, it will stay in the box in her dining room and collect dust. So I am doing us both a favor. First thing, what does it do??? Everything. Slow cook, sauté, pressure cook, air fry, dehydrate, steam, sous vide, warms, roasts, bakes and broils. Whew, that’s a lot. 

We have a pressure cooker… Although I am scared to use it so I am actually a little excited about not being so scared anymore. We have a slow cooker. We have a dehydrator. We have an oven and stove top.

I was going between the instant pot and the ninja foodie. We have a few ninja appliances and I really like them. The reason I picked the instant pot was because I was originally sending it as a gift to my mom and I read that the controls were easier to use on the instant pot and the ninja foodie took up more counter space.

I like the fact that you can do everything in ONE pot. You can use different cooking methods on one dish. The Instant pot is pretty big. I need to figure out what I can take off my counter so I can put this in it’s place. I plan on using it a lot in the next few weeks so it will stay on the counter… Somewhere.

Day one: We just wanted to test it out so we made Air Fried Steak Fries. We put 2 tablespoons of oil over some frozen steak fries and sprinkled them with salt. Threw them in the basket set it to air fry at 400 for 8 minutes. Tossed them and set it for another 8 minutes. To my husbands and my surprise, they were cooked and crispy! I put mine in a salad with a hamburger patty and thousand Island dressing. I really enjoyed the crunch although it was a dry crunch. You know how when you oil fry something it’s like a wet, oily crunch? None of that, which is fine. I am trying to lose weight and it’s Air Fried, duh.. no oil so no oily crunch. I’m down with it. Clean up was pretty easy too so I will definitely use this for fries in the future. We did end up making steak fries again with 3 table spoons of oil and that helped them not be so dry. We think maybe trying regular fries might be better in order to get more of the crispy, slightly oily crunch because steak fries are so big. We’re going to play around with it.

Day Two: Korean Short Ribs – WW Recipe. So easy! Both my husband and I really enjoyed this. But meat over rice in a bowl with plenty of fresh veggie… Yes, please! This recipe is a keeper and I loved how simple it was to mix everything together, dump it in the pot and pressure cook.

Day three: Oxtail. I used this recipe.https://www.myforkinglife.com/jamaican-oxtails

This just smelled amazing when cooking in the pot. This is, I think, the biggest reason why I am loving this so far. I can sauté and pressure cook in the same pot! Just less stuff to clean up overall. I love that there are so many recipes out there too. And I love that I am no longer scared to pressure cook. I have a feeling this will lead to a lot of delicious dinners in our future! This was a keeper. Both my husband and I really enjoyed this. This was the first time I ever made oxtail and they didn’t just melt into the gravy. The meat pulled right off the bone but it was still chunks. I am thrilled that I finally made good oxtail. Now I get to play with the recipe a little and make it my own.

Day four: Whole Roasted Chicken. I am really excited about this. This it the recipe I used: https://natashaskitchen.com/instant-pot-whole-chicken So freaking good. I loved this chicken and it was my first time ever making a whole chicken. It came out super juicy.  I told my husband I wasn’t going to make the gravy but we decided to air fry it to crisp the skin a little so I had to drain the juices at the bottom. I figured I should just pour the  juice into a pan and at least try the gravy and I am really glad I did. My husband loved it. He actually went back and got more, twice. I know I keep saying it but I love that we can do everything in this thing. I told my husband that it would actually be cheaper to just buy a roasted chicken at the grocery store. The raw chicken was  a little over $5.00 and the roasted chickens at the grocery store are $4.99. We both agreed that the chicken I made was better than the grocery store roasted chicken. This recipe will be made again and again and I will be adding my own spin on some of the ingredients to customize to our tastes. Side note: When searching for a 4lb chicken the roasting chickens were all 5-6 lbs. I bought a fryer chicken because it was the only one I could find that was the right weigh (about 4 lbs). A fast google search told me the only difference is that fryer chickens are younger and weigh less  but they can be roasted or fried or anyway you want to cook them. Roaster chickens are older and usually weigh 5-6 lbs.
One of my friends is on the fence about getting this because she has a bunch of separate appliances already. When I told her how great the chicken came out, she asked how long it took. It took about an hour to cook, release the pressure and then air fry. She said that she could roast a chicken in the oven in about an hour. Ok. I would still recommend the instant pot.

Day five: Pork belly. I used this recipe:https://www.pressurecookrecipes.com/instant-pot-crispy-pork-bell It wasn’t hard to make. I forgot to brush on the oil before air frying and was worried it wouldn’t be crispy. I brushed on the oil and put it on for another 10 minutes to air fry and then I was worried it would be dry or burnt. It was delicious. I do not think I will make this often only because I will gain all the weight I just lost! ( 15 lbs so far!)  I am proud of myself that I can make a pretty tasty  pork belly now. My husband liked it too. He kept snacking on them and saying they were good and that unless I want him to get fat, I shouldn’t make these that often! I agree! I do like this recipe but I think I will add my own ideas to the mixture and play around with this recipe a little but.. but like every other month, or smaller batches so it’s not so tempting to eat a lot.

Day 6: Rounding out my first full week. Soy sauce chicken. I used this recipe:https://www.pressurecookrecipes.com/instant-pot-soy-sauce-chicken-rice/When I googled it I also noticed that another site I use a lot has a recipe too:https://rasamalaysia.com/ginger-soy-chicken-instant-pot/I think I might try this one next time only because I like a lot of her recipes. I think it came out pretty good. I did not let it rest which the recipe says you should. I was starving so I just dug in. I will be making this again. The master broth is currently on my counter, I just have to figure out how to save it without taking up so much space in my fridge. My husband liked this too

To find my recipe’s I google whatever my ingredient, how I am cooking it and then pick between the recipes that have the highest reviews. Sometimes I will pick two and sort of combine them together.

The thing with the instant pot is of course you can cook your food in other ways but why would you want to? For me, I was nervous using a pressure cooker and I wanted an air fryer. I love that I can pressure cook something, get all that flavor and then air fry it for the crisp. This is totally worth for me. I am thinking about buying one for my brother too for his birthday in February. I think he would like it as a one pot to clean and delicious healthy dinner to eat. This has also given me more confidence in my cooking. I have tried to make oxtail and short ribs both on the stovetop and in the slow cooker before and they always fell apart on me. This past week I have made both using the instant pot and they came out delicious. I can’t wait to make more. I plan on keeping this on my counter and using it at least a couple times a week. If you are on the fence about getting one, I would recommend it.

My daughter is turning 9 this week. I can’t believe it. I feel like time is moving so fast.

Since we are in a self imposed lock down of sorts – Covid rates are going up, up, up around us so we are not going out – we are planning a few fun things at home. First, she’ll have her birthday scavenger hunt!

This is a tradition we started when the kids were small and they really look forward to it every year. Her new bed that we ordered back in August from pottery barn teen is FINALLY scheduled to be delivered. It was on back order until October, and then they said it was still backordered until November… and then it finally arrived and we could schedule the delivery. Turns out the first available day was her birthday so it works out! Her scavenger hunt gifts are all little things to decorate her room too… So for her bday she’ll be getting a tween bedroom makeover.

She also proved for a year that she was responsible enough to take care of a bunny by researching them and everything that needs to be done to take care of a bunny… and keeping her room clean. She picked up Captain Charleston Carrot two weeks ago and he’s really the sweetest little/big thing. He keeps her company while she’s doing her school work and I get to sneak in throughout the work day and pet him too.🙂

I am going to pick up an Oreo Ice Cream cake from the grocery store and then she gets to choose where to order take out from. Usually we would go for hibachi but Covid means delivery. Maybe she’ll still want hibachi.

That’s pretty much it for her 9th birthday plans. Happy birthday to my baby girl. I can’t believe it’s been 9 years already… And I can’t believe she’s only 9 years old.

She’s the funniest, sweetest, most thoughtful little boop and I am really happy to be her Mama.

Since starting this blog one of the things I’ve been learning is vulnerability and the power that lies within doing so. It’s weird but freeing at the same time. Those of you who have been following me these past 5 months know that I was born with a disability, because of this disability I was always teased both for how I sounded when I spoke and because I’m unable to walk (YET) I’ve shared that because of it I became numb to emotions as a coping mechanism. The only one I’ve stayed connected with is anger. Anger literally became my best friend. It came everywhere I went even places where it wasn’t invited. It even spoke for me in the majority of situations. Simply meaning that if someone said or did anything I didn’t agree with instead of processing what happened I would instantly become angry and lose my temper. What I haven’t shared is that for the first 8 years of my life my mom was the only one that could understand me when I spoke. That’s until I laid my eyes on one of my favorite celebrities to this day at the age of 5. Even though I seen him for the first time at 5 I didn’t start becoming fully verbal until 8. The full story will be in my book. But I’ve decided to write him a letter. Who knows maybe he’ll actually read it one day. Anything is possible with God right??

Dear Romeo;

I know you may never read this but anything is possible with god, so I’m writing this letter to thank you. Thank you for helping me laugh on my hardest days as a child, seriously I would come home crying from being teased for what felt like all day, catch the rerun of The Romeo Show and laugh instantly. Thank you for technically being my first word, literally other than my mother no one ever understood anything I said until I said your name. Thank you for sharing some of your life struggles in your music. Our struggles might not be the same but by you sharing I’ve realized that storms don’t last forever. Thanks for having issues with Bow Wow instead of Chris Brown because then I’d be caught in the middle and…whew chile I’m getting stressed just thinking about it lol I loveeee y’all both sooo much but let me get back on topic before I get distracted. Thank you for being such a man of god!! Back in 2016 when i was still struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts you began to post your bible study notes on Twitter which made me want to start building my own relationship with him not just believe in him, A year later in 2017 I accepted Jesus as my lord and savior and in 2019 I brought my own bible. Thank you for constantly reminding me that God still loves me regardless of my past. Thank you for letting him use you.

Sincerely

Takia

Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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